When faced with two equally tough choices, most people choose the third choice: to not choose. There are no such things as curses; only people and their decisions. At your point of decision, you shape your destiny.
It is not hard to decide what you want your life to be about. What is hard is figuring out what you’re willing to give up in order to do the things you really care about. It is not hard to make decisions when you know what your values are. It does not take much strength to do things, but it requires a great deal of strength to decide what to do. So, here are a few tips to help you out.
1. get started
ask yourself if you can solve a problem there and then. If you can, do it . If you cannot make it, as simple as possible, but no simpler.
2. define the problem
in one sentence, write what you have to make a decision about.
understand what will be affected, where outcomes will be implemented and why you ought to make that decision to begin with. Explore how others would approach the same issue. Consider the widest range of options you have available.
4. picture your ideal outcome
how can your choice bridge the gap between the present and your perfect outcome.
5. challenge assumptions
the merit pf your decision is based on the process followed and not just on the outcome. Ensure it is foolproof. The end does not necessarily justify the means. Question your inbuilt biases that you are not aware of.
6. share the burden
form a decision making group and subject its activities to oversight, allow dissent along the way.
7. make the decision and make it happen
take a flexible approach and strike a balance between planning and adjusting. Respect your decision but do not be a slave to it.